Myat Nyein - Good children, excellent achievements

A group of girls who went on a picnic to a mountainous area lost their way and spent the night in fear on the mountain. Then the whole group wandered around in a daze. Even the weak ones were suffering from cold, dampness, and hunger.

"They'll never find us, we're all going to die."

A girl said, sobbing. At that moment, 11-year-old Evannel Town stepped forward and

"I swear I won't die"

He said firmly and clearly.

"I've heard a saying, if we follow a small stream, we'll come to a larger stream, and if we continue along that stream, we'll come to a village, a city, and so on. I'll follow the stream we found, and if you want to come with me, you can come."

Evannel said, "I'm sorry, I'm sorry." He said, and then he went into the forest to find a stream. The others followed him. They pushed through the undergrowth and followed the stream, which widened and widened, for more than five hours. Finally, they heard voices. The cries of their group for help brought rescuers to their rescue. A brave and resourceful teenage girl led the entire group to safety.

When people tell the story, they say that Evan Nell was “born to be a leader.” In their view, people like Evan Nell were born to be leaders, while others were born to be followers.

Not really. Leaders are not born leaders. They are made leaders. The answers I have come across from my research with athletes, students, air force cadets, and company managers have convinced me of this.

There are men and women who lead organizations, who lead communities, who lead sports teams, and so on. They are nothing more than the fruits of the nurturing of responsible, dutiful parents.

The practices that these parents followed were simple and straightforward. These practices can help develop a leadership spirit. Leadership spirit is a spirit of strength and independence of thought. The children of these parents do not give in to peer pressure. They do not compromise. They act according to their beliefs.

Leadership brings benefits for today and tomorrow. A person will become a person in the world. Whether he or she will become one can be judged by the leadership qualities he or she displays in and out of the classroom during his or her youth. Whether a person is a boy or a girl, it is more accurate to predict the future success of a person based on his or her leadership qualities in childhood than on his or her intelligence or educational attainment.

I recently met with a group of kindergarten teachers. I asked them if they could pick out the leaders among the four- and five-year-olds they were teaching. “Of course,” they said. These leaders are confident. They treat adults and their classmates with respect. They share toys willingly. They are always cheerful. They want to know everything. And they are the ones who lead the way. Whenever you see someone starting a project, it is them. Other children watch them. And they follow their lead. And, more than any other quality, their enthusiasm is contagious.

I surveyed 65 teenage boys about leadership qualities, and found that almost all of the words they used to describe their leadership were the same.

“They are so smiling and happy,” said one boy. He continued.

“They look happy and content. And they make other people happy and content.”

So, here are eight secrets on how you can nurture your child's leadership spirit: Be an encourager.

When a child is told something like, “I know you can do this,” their self-confidence grows. Then,

"Ha... you've done it, you're really good at it."

A child begins to build his or her self-confidence with his or her first steps. As your little one takes his or her first steps, he or she will come running to you. He or she will run into your arms in awe. This is victory number one for him or her. He or she will savor the taste of victory. Each subsequent success will pave the way for other successes to follow.

So, no achievement is too small to be praised. This doesn't mean that you should give compliments without thinking or that you shouldn't criticize. Criticism should be done in conjunction with the praise guidelines.

After a youth soccer game, exhausted fathers often say things like, “Wow, you missed two easy goals.” Trust me. Your daughter knows she missed. You don’t need to keep telling her. So instead, praise her for her efforts.

"It's good that my daughter carries the ball to the goal. Dad likes it. She can score big goals."

Then

Give instructions like, "Let's practice again tomorrow night. I believe you can score more goals."

 Let's explore and discover.

One day, late winter and early spring, I watched a little girl digging for a rock in the rain-soaked front yard. The little girl ran to her father.

"Dad, look at this rock I found, it's beautiful."

The father looked at his daughter with displeasure.

“My daughter is covered in mud,” he said. The little girl's face turned pale. She threw down the large stone she was holding in her hand in frustration. Then she went into the house.

What kind of words should his father say?

"Hey, the rock is so beautiful, let's wash it so we can see it in detail. Then, Dad, I'll give you a shovel and gloves, so you'll want to see more of these beautiful rocks." In fact, the mud that has accumulated can be washed away with water. The impression left in the child's mind will not be erased.

Children (and adults too) admire and admire someone who is eager to explore and discover, who is willing to take on challenges. They emulate them. Yet we often teach our children not to give up and to stay calm.

An elementary school teacher told the story of two new kindergarteners who were already reading well. The teacher asked the two children if they would like to take a special advanced reading class. One child nodded enthusiastically. The other said that he would stay in the new class at another school. The unfortunate thing was that the child's parents supported his decision.

"So, you can guess which of these two kids will become the leader."

The teacher told me.

Focus on success.

Recently, a promising 12-year-old gymnast came to me for help. She had all the makings of a future Olympic champion. Yet she didn't seem to be performing as well as she could have. I gave her four darts and asked her to shoot at a target on the other wall of the office. She looked at me with concern.

"What if I miss it?"

"He asked. That phrase summed up his unsatisfying athletic career. He was not focused on how to win, but on what to do if he lost."

Let your child focus on the successes. Don't focus on the difficulties and obstacles. Only the one who worships success can influence others. He can inspire others to follow him.

We often step in front of a child to protect them from mistakes, the consequences of those mistakes, and the lessons they can teach them. A child who is determined and determined will work hard to achieve his goals, no matter what. He will correct his mistakes. He will try again with determination.

A person faces a situation that arises at the request of the time. He challenges difficulties. In facing these challenges, he may fail. Even if he fails, he can still win the respect and admiration of people.

Listen to their imaginations.

Your daughter comes home and announces that she will be a bullfighter when she grows up. Or your son says he wants to be a stuntman in movies. Both of these fantasies are theirs.