Myat Nyein - Decorate your life with beauty of mind

If you want to have a friendly and agreeable personality, you need to find points of agreement with the person you are talking to. When you do this, you should only find points that you can genuinely agree with. Not points that you can accept out of spite or with a sense of entitlement.

Needless to say, finding those genuine agreements is the most difficult part of this process.

Why is it so difficult? Because your consent cannot be a superficial, pretentious consent. Because the motivation to seek consent goes against the natural inclination of the majority.

We can look at both extremes. On the one hand, there is consensus.

... You are absolutely right.

I agree with everything you said.

I completely accept everything you said.

What you said is absolutely correct...

I agree with your statement one hundred percent..

If you agree on everything, there will be nothing to discuss between you two. There will be no more things to discuss. Likewise, there will be no more information to exchange with each other. It will be like you are just nodding your head and listening to what the other person is saying. It will be comfortable to watch you two. It will be comfortable. There will be no friction. There will be no arguments. There will be one thing. In the conversation between you two, the other person will be the speaker, and you will be the listener. Your role in the conversation will be too dim. You will not have any input or participation.

Let's say that we don't want to be treated like a lizard, so we start to argue without accepting or agreeing with the other person's submissions. Then we will have to avoid this extreme. On the other extreme, ...

Yes, but..... ..

So I completely disagree.

... You're wrong there.

...That's not what you said.

These are the kinds of words that are used by someone who doesn't agree with what the other person is saying and doesn't accept it. These people are the kind of people who are argumentative. They want to show their greatness and superiority by arguing that they don't agree with what the other person is saying.

People who do this are usually scholars and highly educated people. Because they are encouraged to argue and reject. This kind of mind is very disturbing to the other person. It is very difficult to define this kind of mind as a beautiful mind, a desirable mind.

So if you want to be a good friend.....

You should avoid both extremes. You should be somewhere in between. You don't have to agree with everything the other person says. Likewise, you don't have to argue and reject everything they say.

This has a lot to do with ego. An argument is like a battle between egos. If you agree, you have surrendered. You have lost. If you disagree, you have held your ego tightly. That behavior shows that you are superior to the other person.

All these practices and behaviors have encouraged the hobby of arguing, and the debates that are often held in schools. Similarly, in society, in government agencies, in the courts, and in the news and press, there is a habit of criticizing, arguing, and arguing. All these practices have reinforced the hobby of arguing.

In the political world, the opposition party is always looking for an opportunity to reject and reject everything the ruling party says and does. They criticize everything the ruling party does. In turn, the ruling party criticizes and attacks. They criticize and blame. Most people in this day and age have come to realize that this kind of behavior is extremely stupid and foolish.

If you insist on always winning every time an argument arises, you will only end up being stuck in a rut. There is only one thing: the quality of your argument will improve.

When you lose an argument, you may gain a new perspective on a problem, a new way of thinking. The idea that you always have to be right is not the most important thing in the world. And it's certainly not a very pretty idea.

Discussion should not be a battle of egos. It should be an honest and genuine effort to find a solution to a problem.

Causal bubble

In a previous book I wrote, I coined the term causal bubble . A person does something. Or says something. You don't like what they do. Or you don't agree with what they say. And then you label that person as stupid. Or ignorant or mean.

But he or she may actually be acting rationally from within his or her own bubble of causality . That bubble is made up of that person's perceptions, values, needs, and experiences. If you really put in the effort, you can get inside that bubble of causality. In other words, you can learn where that person is coming from. Then you can assess that person's situation or that person's attitude.

The CoRT program taught in school includes techniques for controlling attention. These techniques broaden the perspective. The thinker can then see a wider perspective on a matter. And then act accordingly. These techniques are similar to the directions used in navigation: east, west, south, and north.

One of these methods is encouraging people to see things from the other person's perspective. There are many examples of people who have been fighting each other in a heated argument suddenly stopping when they learn to see things from the other person's perspective. Seeing things from the other person's perspective is like looking into the other person's bubble of causality.

Special circumstances

This is the main way to turn disagreement into agreement.

Someone makes a statement that you immediately stand up and protest against.

Women trust their ancestors and fortune tellers more than men.

The immediate reaction that comes to your mind is that this statement is false.

Women may or may not trust astrologers. Even if they do not trust astrologers, they may listen to their predictions as a form of comfort. In a way, women who live boring lives are likely to be delighted by the new events predicted by astrologers.

In the past, women did not own their lives. They did not have full control over their lives. They just waited to see what would happen in their lives. They had no political power. They had no military power. So they had to look for power to rely on. The power they could find was power from the occult or the mystical world. That is,

What is the translator's order?

The book How to have a Beautiful Mind by Edward de Bono is a translation of How to have a Beautiful Mind by Edward de Bono. De Bono has been in the field of thinking for over thirty years. He has revolutionized traditional thinking and introduced more intelligent and effective ways of thinking. The benefits are obvious. Due to de Bono's efforts, thinking is now taught as a subject in schools in many countries.

The writings of Master De Bo No are not very new to the Burmese readership. It was Teacher Kota who first introduced De Bo No to the Burmese readership. Thanks to Kota, I also read De Bo No's writings. Then I translated Six Thinking Hats and Six Action Shoes.

Now it's back. Decorate your life with beauty. This book also introduces various ways of thinking. However, the main focus is on verbal and written communication. This book provides a guide to help you become a more attractive person by practicing how to speak skillfully in conversations and discussions. This book provides a guide to help you become a more attractive person by gaining more friends and lovers. Thanks to the help of Ko Aung Myo from Moe Journal, we would like to inform our readers that we have translated and published monthly in Moe Journal under the title of Becoming a More Attractive Person.

As usual, this book is by De Bo No, so it is definitely not the kind of book you usually find or see in bookstores.

Most of us Burmese people still don't know, don't know how to do it, and don't understand things that we have yet to see and read. As the saying goes , life is a never-ending learning process, and as we are incomplete vessels, we must try to fill it up, whether we get more or less.

May readers decorate their lives with beauty.

Respecting the readers

Peace