Maung Lwin Pyin - Family happiness and parents' problems

Asking children to do household chores

Author Dr. Benjamin Spock was a social scientist who specialized in child care, family happiness, and marital problems. He wrote and published the book Baby and Child Care, which became so popular that it is recognized as the second best-selling book in the world after the Bible.

He also wrote a book on family problems. The book is called Problems of Parents. The book was translated and published by Saya Maung Soe Thit under the title “Understanding Children and Family Life Maintenance Techniques.” When I read this book, I found that I wanted to give back to parents who are raising families, building families, and seeking a happy family life. A family is a small social organization that is made up of parents and children. Family life maintenance is also about how parents should raise and guide their children.

Therefore, anyone who wants to enjoy a happy family life must study how parents and children interact, how good the relationship between parents and children is, and what methods can improve the relationship between parents and children. In general, if the relationship between parents and children is good, then it can be said that the family life will be happy. It is believed that the mother is the key to improving the relationship between parents and children. It is believed that the happiness of the family life can be measured by how well the parents can handle their children.

I would like to begin by presenting the first problem that parents face in order to have a happy family life. Dr. Benjamin Spock gave a lecture entitled “Children’s Help and Family Responsibility.” One of the problems is whether parents should make their children do all the housework. Whether or not to make their children do housework is a difficult decision for parents to make. This is also part of the parent’s ability to control their children. It also has to do with the happiness of the family life.

Dr. Spock said that parents disagree on whether or not to ask their children to do chores.

“ There are many different opinions between parents and children, and even between parents, about the importance of household chores. Most parents believe that children should be asked to do household chores. However, some parents feel that doing the chores themselves will go more smoothly and efficiently. Some parents get so angry when their children are told to do them that they stop asking them to do them. .

Some parents say that we don't want our children to work all the time like we did, and that they only get to be young once, and that they should enjoy it while they can. Then there are the questions of what kind of work is appropriate at what age, and whether they should be paid, whether as a pocket money or in some other form,” he said.

Dr. Spock disagreed with parents who did not ask their children to do any household chores. He said that children should be allowed to do as much household chores as possible. This would teach them to be kind and considerate. If they were not asked to do this, they would become dissatisfied, selfish, and quarrelsome with their neighbors, school friends, and family members.

" These traits are reflected in their work, their marriage,

It can lead to adults who expect satisfaction and gratification. These people don't even know what to do when they go out for a picnic or what to do at the office. When their marriage starts to suffer, they blame their spouse. When they lose their job, they blame their boss.

I think it is wrong for parents to tell their children not to do their homework because they think they can do it more efficiently and quickly if they do it themselves. Every preschool and elementary school teacher has seen that children develop a sense of responsibility and accountability by helping out with chores and chores, and that if they don't do that, they don't develop a sense of responsibility. So even if the chores are delayed, they should help out with the chores and share the responsibilities. This is how parents build their character,” explains Dr. Spock, who should make children work.

Additionally, parents are said to be asking their children to help out, which helps them develop a sense of responsibility and a sense of joy in doing the work they are assigned to do.

In the family, a teenage girl can help her mother with chores like washing dishes, cleaning the kitchen, and making the bed. Similarly, a boy can help his father with chores like washing the car, gardening, and cleaning the house. By the age of six to nine, these children can help their parents a lot. Dr. Spock says that children should take responsibility for their own family. Boys should make their own beds, clean their own rooms, eat their own meals, and wash their own dishes. They should stop doing things that their parents do for them. They should also stop doing things that their brothers and sisters do for them. Being responsible for yourself is a way of building self-confidence.

“ Even a three-year-old can help you put a napkin on the table. He can bring his mother a napkin while she is changing her clothes. He can also help you put away your toys at night. But it is not natural for a three-year-old to be left alone to pick up a mess all night. He doesn’t understand that yet.

"A ten- or twelve-year-old boy might be asked to do chores like cleaning the house, folding the laundry, or cleaning the car for an hour. But if you don't clearly explain the purpose of the chores, he will be reluctant to do them, he will refuse, he will be clever enough to avoid them," Dr. Spock explained about chores.

There is another issue that parents face when it comes to hiring housewives. The issue of whether or not to pay for the work, whether in the form of a meal allowance or some other form of payment. Dr. Spock suggests that families may differ in how they perceive the relationship between work and money.

“ It depends on the parents’ attitude whether or not they want to encourage their children to earn extra income (beyond their regular allowance), and whether or not they can do the daily chores without any incentive. In any case, the knowledge that you can’t get paid if you don’t do a job is certainly a good deterrent for both children and adults,” he said.

This suggests that Dr. Spock believes that if someone is asked to work, they should be paid fairly. This may be because they want to be valued for their work. It may also be because they want to be honored for their ability to get the job done.

"But I don't think we should allow a child to ask for money for everything he does," he said, which made me realize that parents should be careful to avoid a mercenary mentality in their children's lives.