Maung Lwin Pyin - The life of a teenager in a family

A happy family life with young men and women

Teenager (or young adult)

It's hard to imagine that a couple would have children at some point in their lives, and that while they were taking care of their children, they would still have to take care of their teenage children.

In fact, taking care of a newborn baby is just the beginning of raising a teenager in the future. Both parents will definitely have to overcome a very complicated period called adolescence, which is full of various difficulties and problems. Whether it takes three years or five years, it is impossible to deny that you do not want to overcome it. It is not something that you can give up on because you do not want to take care of a teenager and do not want to go to school.

Adolescence in this article refers to the Burmese term for the period of puberty. It is the age of puberty when young people are beginning their journey of youth and are often shy and shy.

The humble child, who grew up living in the same household as his parents since he was a newborn, is now facing the wrath of his parents as he grows up.

It's not that these young people are born with anger issues, but the actions they take at their age can be quite angry. From the parents' perspective, the child who always listened to what we said, who always obeyed us in everything we did, who always calmed down in everything we fed and dressed them, now they are kicking their feet and rebelling.

In a household with teenagers, you will hear a lot of shouting and shouting at least once a day. It is not because they want to shout or cause a fight. It is because their natures are different, it is because they are competing with each other. In other words, the loud shouting and shouting are the competing voices of a rebellious teenager and his parents who do not know how to control that teenager.

Sometimes, conflicts between parents and children escalate, often leaving deep emotional scars.

Parents' role is about to begin.

As teenagers reach the age of 11, 12, or 14, and enter puberty and adulthood, their situation must first be understood. Change is both physical and emotional.

Because of the changes in the body, emotions change. Because of the changes in the emotions, physical changes also occur. Of course, the feeling that they are “not children anymore” is firmly entrenched in them.

At that time, parents will have to quickly prepare for our new role. We will have to keep up with them in order to cope with their age. We will have to constantly understand their situation, and constantly observe their physical and mental changes.

This will help us to better handle and provide direction to these often uncontrollable young adults.

In a family, when a child reaches adulthood, parents often fail to prepare themselves for the situation, resulting in bad children. In the past, from the time a child was born to the time they could walk on the ground, the periods of time when they needed to be healthy and develop properly were important for their children. Now, the period of time when a child is in adolescence and is struggling to grow is also very important.

The fire of anger roars into the rain.

Parents who are raising their teenagers need to open themselves up to a new role in order to understand them. In this new role, how do they manage and control their anger?

The word "thunder" refers to the way in which children and parents, who are fighting against each other, come together and roar like thunder. When children are angry and parents are angry, the household becomes a hotbed of anger and violence.

Even though they are young, they are also very stubborn. Parents need to understand that they can also get angry when they are not happy. The words that come out of their anger can be unbearable for parents. They can also be inaudible. They can easily be verbally abusive. For mothers, they can press their hands on their chests and say, "Mama."

This is where the heat in the house can start. If their parents can't quench their anger with cold water and pour boiling water on them, their anger will start to rise up. Who created this situation?

The ones who created and brought this situation to pass are the parents. This conclusion is drawn from the perspective of psychology. In childhood and adolescence, the way parents talk to each other is already copied from their first teachers, their parents. When children were young, their parents' harsh words, harsh words, abusive words, and rude words, along with their parents' ways of expressing anger and responding to anger, were things they learned and imitated.

If she had spoken to her children gently and affectionately when they were young, and if she had not let her anger get to them, the young woman would probably be relatively calm and peaceful now.

But it's unlikely that they will be completely calm and free from anger. Their emotions are still changing according to their age, so they won't be able to stay calm and free from anger all the time.

As a mother, you must always keep an eye on your little girl. You must know that along with the changing body proportions, you also need to keep an eye on her inner self.

Sometimes their soft anger can hit you. My daughter will tell her mother. My daughter's friend understands even more than her, "Mom, try to be calm." My son will tell me, "Mom, don't do it, but you have to do it, Mom, don't ask me why I did it, I won't tell you."

I may feel like a mother who is sad because of the children I used to talk to and what they will become now. As parents, we must open up to new roles, which also include building our own resilience.

And they will have to control their anger that comes out, and they will have to control their own anger that comes out again. I will continue to present some ways for parents and children to control anger until it explodes in the family.

How to control anger between parents and children

Some of the behaviors of young people make their parents angry. `` They'll find out if they want to know. They'll even blame you for being angry because of them.''

The most common situation that causes anger is when guests come to the house. They do not distinguish between strangers, relatives, or any other guests. They take advantage of the guests' arrival, conversation, and stay. In taking advantage of the opportunities, they often show off their abilities.

It is common for children to show off their talents while having guests over and to scold their parents. The parents who are scolded are immediately angered. Here, anger is inevitable.