Maung Cho (Psychology) - Is it difficult for you or him to get along?

This book will show you how to get along with difficult people. The social problems you face every day are not as big as you think. All problems are based on people. Believe that you are a human being and that you can really solve these social problems effectively. When you encounter difficult people, you will definitely go through an exciting time. Believe that this time is only a moment. How short it is depends entirely on your social skills. Sometimes you may end up in a situation where you have to procrastinate and not solve it in the short time you want. Procrastination only makes the problem worse. You don't need to panic about this.

Here are some things you should know first.

(1) Don't forget to admit when you're wrong.

You should be able to say things like, “If I'm wrong, I admit it. Tell me how I can make it better.” You should have the courage to say it.

(2) Be willing to give compliments from the bottom of your heart.

Say something like, "That's good of you to say."

(3) You can't end the problem by just saying what you think. Make sure you know the other person's opinions. Let them talk. Ask.

“What do you think, what do you want to be?” are concessions that allow the other person to reveal their desires. If you make this kind of concession, the other person will often make greater concessions to you than you might think.

(4) Never take the other person's anger. Anger is a powerful weapon built on the ego. Human nature responds to the ego with the weapon of anger. You believe this statement is 100 percent true. So

You need to be able to use phrases like "Don't worry, sir," "Don't be angry," etc.

(5) “Thank you, sir.” Do you find it pleasant to say “Thank you, sir” in your own words? The power of the word “thank you” cannot be expressed in words. One thing is certain: when someone says “thank you” to you,

There is no one in this world who is not grateful like you. This statement is no exception. It is always true, as long as you believe it.

(6) “I would say..” “I think..” “I mean..” “I think..” “I...” “I...”

The name of the ego is “I.” When it grows, it becomes “I” and “I”. If “I” drags on and on, “I” and “we” and “me

"We..." "We" is there. It's very sweet to the ear. If you forget to say "we" or "we" when you speak...

First, keep these six points in mind and apply them to your interactions with people. You need to be patient.

A flower seed doesn't just fall to the ground and bloom.

We shouldn't blame the flower seed for not blooming. The soil it fell on, the environment it was in, was good soil for it. Is it in a position to thrive? It needs to be planted in good soil and watered. Without water, there can be no plant. And light, air, etc.

There are things in the world that you want, things that you want to be. There are circumstances and times. There are things that you need to support. You need to know that there are other necessary circumstances, external support.

When these things come together, something good will come out of it. For something good to happen, it is not someone else who has to create the content. It is you.

You can create flowers to share.

Is it you or him who finds it difficult to get along?

You are different first. It is usually you who is difficult to get along with. It is not someone else. Are you a good person? Ask yourself first. Do you have difficulty getting along with people? If you are a friendly person, you will rarely have difficult people to get along with. If you do, it will be one or two, sometimes. But the whole world is not like you. The whole world is full of people like you, friendly people like you, and not difficult to get along with, which is a great situation. But there are people in the world who are very difficult to get along with. The thing you have to make sure is that you are not difficult to get along with. Then you can continue reading this book.

People are different from each other in appearance. They are also different from each other in spirit. They are genetically different. Their appearance, height, posture, and voice are different. They grow up in different environments. They have different parents. They have different families. They have different educational qualifications. They have different life experiences and worldviews. These different people come together to form a large community. You are also part of this large community. Therefore, you have to interact with people who are different from you every day.

This is life. What is important when you interact with people from different backgrounds, different educational backgrounds, and different mentalities? What should you be careful about, how should you behave and communicate? One important thing is that you will inevitably face relationship problems.

Life is not a bed of roses. So you will inevitably face difficulties. Difficulties are social difficulties that people create. When will these social difficulties appear? Difficulties will appear in situations where you have to work with people who are difficult to get along with. This is a sure thing, an unavoidable thing.

Do you know human nature? Here I will first talk about the nature of difficult people. Difficult people are egocentric. They are egotistical, they are obsessed with me. They do not speak openly about everything. They want to shout out what they think. But they never say the truth even when they know it is true. These difficult people are busy with their personal affairs. They put their own interests, their own interests first. They talk first. These people are not interested in you. They will not be interested in what you have to say. So how do you interact with these people? The situation is that you are in a position to interact with these people, these difficult people. You cannot avoid it. You have to interact with difficult people.

How about you?

1. Don't get personal. Your main priority should be to think about what is the basis for your relationship with these difficult people. Make sure you know the issues between you and them. You need to be aware of everything and be prepared.
2. What do you want? What do you expect from your interactions with these people? What do you want? Is what you want fair and reasonable? You need to make that clear.
3. The most important thing is how well you can treat the other person. How well you act with kindness and generosity. Can you focus on getting the job done without looking at the benefits? Can you really communicate and work effectively to get the job done? Do you really have the ability to show that you are a very good person to be around?

You have to get the job done. You have to do the things that you have to do. You have to deal with difficult people. You have to talk. You have to communicate. Don't be stubborn and say, "I can't do it because I'm afraid of getting dirty." Don't be hasty in your approach. Don't let your mind get stuck. There are more than sixteen thousand problems in the world. There are millions of problems. There are millions of ways to solve them. If you are a person who loves people and is very good at communicating, many ways to solve problems will automatically come to you.