Daw Yee Kyin - Marriage problems

Mother's responsibilities

In Myanmar, the number of women is greater than the number of men, and our women in the Union enjoy the most freedom in Southeast Asia. I sometimes think about our situation. Every time I think about this, I wonder if our responsibilities are as great as the rights we have. Today, I would like to talk about the responsibilities we have to carry out as women's responsibilities.

If a married couple is in debt and struggling to make ends meet, they say, "He's broke, his wife is useless and doesn't care about anything." When some husbands lose their jobs, people who hear about it say, "He's broke, he's encouraging his wife to commit corruption later. He only thought about getting her diamond earrings, so he did things that made people aware of it." I, along with all the other women in the world, have heard and seen this kind of criticism. When their children are stupid, they blame the same woman who is a mother.

That's right. If American President Lincoln or British Prime Minister Churchill became world-renowned, what kind of women would their beloved wives be?

When I research what kind of women the mothers raised, I find that they are very good women. I usually say that they are very good, but I have to ask how they are. If women are good, they are like a ladder, a ladder, a scaffold for their husbands and children. If a man is weak, you should correct him. If a man is weak, you should support him. If your husband is trying to do something he shouldn't do, you should warn him. If a woman is bad, she is like garbage. Trash can burn like fire, so we need to be the kindling that burns the fire.

I am not going to give an example of the old wives' tales that the country was ruined by the adultery of a woman. I will tell you about a recent incident. A man in the United States was very intelligent and had reached a very high level. If he worked hard and steadily with his plans, he could one day become the Prime Minister. His wife was always nagging him about whether he was a bad person or a bad person, and she was always complaining about him. One day, the husband bet his life on a large sum of money, made a life insurance policy in his wife's name, and put an explosive device in a leather bag and flew on a plane. On the way, his bomb exploded, and the plane crashed, killing all the passengers on board. The husband, who was trying to rape his wife, was so angry that he plotted against her that he and all the passengers on board were killed because of this foolish woman. The incident came to light after the company investigated the plane. I don't think any of us Burmese women would like to see a husband they married because they loved him suffer such a tragedy.

In a country, men are the main people who carry out the responsibilities of the country, from the husband to the wife. Women, who are wives, are the complements who carry out these various responsibilities. We, Burmese women, who are respected by men, have no distinction between the rights of women and men in the constitution. So, we, like men, can achieve peace in the country. We have the right to maintain independence and work for the stability of the Union. With these rights, we have to serve.

As for the duties of our Burmese women, how should they behave as wives? I would like to remind you to practice only one of the 38 blessings. No matter how advanced the world is and how much knowledge we have acquired from the West, I do not want every housewife to miss this blessing. This is the blessing of respect. Respect in Burmese means respect. I want us to remember all ten things that we must respect. These are the Buddha, the Dhamma, the Sangha, the knowledge, concentration, mindfulness, patience, self-control, and each other. The three jewels of the Buddha, the Dhamma, and the Sangha must be respected, so I will not explain it in detail. Whether it is Buddhist or other religions, this is always respected at all times.

Respect for dignity means that everyone should live according to their own dignity and their own circumstances. Let me not give you another example. If I were to tell women how to live and eat from the comfort of my own home, and if I were to act without respect for the things I say and do, then I would be considered a person who does not respect my dignity. That is true. If a woman who is a teacher does not study in class and reads novels, then she does not respect her dignity. If the wife of a ruler of a country takes bribes from her subordinates out of greed, then this is also a matter of disrespect for dignity.

Respecting integrity means that integrity is called steadfastness. This means that one should speak firmly and firmly when one should speak and be firm, and one should not interfere in matters that do not concern oneself.

Another thing is to respect the nature of marriage. Marriage is to take care of the hand, the word, and the friendship. This is especially related to women. Sometimes, wives and men suffer because they do not fulfill their duties, and men are hated because their wives manipulate them. This is because they have neglected this nature of marriage. Whether they are equal to or different from you, they should respect you and be friendly when entering and leaving the house, when they meet, or when they meet, and do not break the rules of friendship. We, the women, sometimes become arrogant and neglect the nature of marriage, so this is something that we should be very careful about.

Two more important dhammas are the fear and shame of evil, called hiri and suttappa. The two dhammas of hiri and suttappa are the boundaries that separate animals from humans. If we dare to step outside the boundaries of hiri and suttappa, we must realize that we are no different from animals.

The last rule of respect is the respect we must have for each other. We must respect each other, whether it is husband and wife, son and mother, teacher and student, or neighbor. In this modern age, these rules of respect have been broken, resulting in chaos.

If a wife respects her husband, she should respect his position and duties. She should always do good deeds and remove sins. She should also be especially respectful of the kindness of her parents and teachers. She should not be disrespectful to each other. If she can help, she should help, if she cannot support, she should support. To fully express this respect, she should say: Garavasa Nivatasa, Santuthasa, Katanyuta, Kalena, Dhammasavaana, Ethamangalamuttam.

Translated into Burmese, it means respecting those who deserve respect, being humble, being content, being grateful, and listening to the Dhamma when appropriate. These five are good and auspicious things.

If we, the women housewives, can practice just this one small auspicious practice, no one will be harmed because of us, and we will benefit a lot because of us.

So today, the housewives of Sottha have the responsibility to try to fulfill this auspicious law with their own hands. Check whether you have practiced this, and if you have not practiced it yet, start practicing it with faith and faith from today. You will have a happy marriage for the first time. In the future, we will be able to achieve peace in the whole country by working together with men, I concluded with a strong assurance.