Zermatu - A question for a man or a woman

Introduction

I have been making people laugh for over twenty years. My jokes are always based on facts and what I see and hear around me. I have heard that my jokes are funny. People especially enjoy making jokes about different relationships between men and women. It never ceases to amaze me how much people are interested in relationships. From all the experiences I have had up to this age, I can say that

(1) Many women don't know anything about men.

(2) Men often leave a relationship for various reasons because women don't understand how men think.

(3) Finally, I have valuable information to change all of this.

I first noticed this when I was hosting a morning radio show. I was on a show

"Ask Steve"

I have a special section called "What's Up?". In this section, women can call me and ask me anything they want to know about gender relations. At first, I intended to make jokes and make people laugh based on this program. But I soon realized that the situations that most of the female listeners of my program face are not funny situations. They have many problems and needs to deal with in their lives. From dating, marriage, children, relationships, in-laws, to balancing work and home, body image, education, and other issues, there are a wide range of issues that are very worrying. Among these, the most frequently asked questions by women are about men.

 

In fact, women want the same response from men. Women want men to love them back as much as they love them. They want men who can show the same kind of intense emotions that they express. They expect as much from a man as they value and respect him. However, the problem for the women who call my program is that they don't get reciprocation from men. So they end up feeling miserable and helpless because of their failed relationships.

 

When the microphones are turned off in the studio, the lights are turned down, and the broadcast is over, I think about the questions from the women who call my show every morning. The women who contact me have had some experience with men in one way or another. They could be friends, boyfriends, husbands, fathers, brothers, anyone. But it really blows my mind to see these women struggling to figure out how to get the love they want, need, and deserve. I conclude that the truth they are seeking is as elusive to them as it is to us men. No matter how hard they try, we women are difficult creatures to understand.

Thinking like this, I put aside my jokes and became serious about my audience. I began to share my knowledge about men in my answers. This knowledge has been around for more than half a century.

My own experience as a man, and the knowledge I have gained from the men I have interacted with throughout my life. Here is a truth about each of us men. “We men are simple people. Basically, all men think the same way.”

 

When I shared my answers through the lens of how men view gender relations, the women in my audience began to understand why the subtle differences and confusions they brought to their relationships with the opposite sex were not truly fair to them. I was able to quickly point out to them that it was never possible to expect a man to respond the way a woman would. They learned that by approaching men in a way that suited them, and in a way that suited them, they could get the same kind of response from women.

 

So my morning radio show became very popular with men and women who were interested in relationships. Eventually, my male and female listeners started to urge me to write a book that would tell women who really wanted a committed relationship how to go about it, and what role men could play in making it happen. First, I thought, why would I write a book like this? What more could I possibly add to the answers I give to my millions of listeners every morning? And I'm not a writer.

 

But then I thought about the relationships I had in my life. I talked to some of my male friends and female colleagues. And I looked at their relationships in terms of their children and their children. I thought about how those relationships affected each of us, and how they affected me in particular. My father was married to my mother for sixty-four years. My mother was the most precious person to him. And my mother was the most precious person to me, the most influential person in my life. My wife and my children are equally precious to me. In fact, my concern for my daughters and their future is what motivates me here. They are also growing up and they are also about to have the same dream of a happy marriage that most women dream of. I can't stand for my daughters to be deceived and misled by the games created by the greedy, ego-ridden men we show the world until we become the kind of men God wants them to be. Through my mother, my wife, my daughters, and the millions of women who listen to my program every morning, I have come to realize that women need someone, a voice, to help guide them to what they truly want. I have come to realize that I can be that person, that I can be that person.

 

In fact, this book is like watching a video of your opponent's games to learn their strengths and weaknesses before you go into a game. I urge women to forget everything they think they know about men. Forget all the myths, all the advice their mothers have told them, all the advice their friends have told them about men, all the advice they have read on TV and in magazines. Find out what kind of men they are through the pages of this book. Whether you are looking to take your dating life to the next level, strengthen your marriage, or just feel bored, use this book as a resource. No matter how much other women rave about men in magazines, on TV, or on the internet, there are some basic things about men that will never change. How good you are to a man, what you are to him, and what you are to him. As long as you don't understand what his love is, what can arouse him, what can motivate him, what his nature is, you will remain a weakling in his deception, in his game.

But with this book, you can get into the basic mind of a man and understand him better. So that you can put your plans, dreams, desires into practice and best of all, you can find out if he is just playing you or if he has plans to be with you.

So act like a woman and think like a man.

Steve Harvey