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Eliminating unnecessary fear

If you fail to eliminate the irrational fears and anxieties that are common in childhood, you may develop anxiety, panic attacks, and panic disorder as you grow up. Here are some of the symptoms of this fear and ways to eliminate it.

Children often have fears of things that are not real, such as the fear of a ghost under the bed, the fear of thunder and lightning, and the fear of the dark. These fears grow and develop as they grow older. Most parents think that simply soothing and comforting their child will solve their fears, but in reality, these fears can lead to mental health problems.

Signs of fear

Every time a child tries to eat something, they worry about a lump in their throat, making them afraid to eat or drink anything.

Some are harmless animals, such as cockroaches and lizards.

There are those who are afraid and disgusted. There are those who are afraid of going to school because they don't want to be separated from their mother all day.

It's true that anxiety is a part of growing up. Natural fears... fear of snakes, fear of being hit by a car, are healthy for a child. They will learn to find the tools and defenses they need to face these dangers.

If this is not the case, and if the fear is excessive and unnatural, parents need to consider this as the root of a mental illness and treat it. For example, if a child feels like they have butterflies in their stomach, or if they are afraid to watch their team lose while going to a football game and can't get out of the car or enter the stadium, parents need to help them solve these problems. If they continue to watch this, they will develop mental and emotional problems that will hinder their child's success and will make them unfit for life.

An example of a " little patience"

Let's take the example of "Than Nu Nge", a 3-year-old preschooler. Whenever strangers come, "Than Nu Nge" hides behind her parents' backs. She is forced to leave the bedroom door open every night. She can only sleep with the lights on all night. She is terrified when she sees a bed bug. "Than Nu Nge's" parents take this lightly and laugh at it. So...

When he reached school age, the 'little boy's' fears and anxieties began to grow stronger. When he went to bed at night, he saw two bed bugs clinging to the mosquito net, so he ran out of bed screaming. He complained to his parents, "Save me!", and refused to sleep on that bed again.

He also had a problem with his eating. Whenever my mother tried to feed him something, he would get a lump in his throat, and he would refuse to eat. When he was eight years old, he stopped eating and began to starve himself. There was something stuck in his throat. He told his mother that he had a lump, so she took him to the doctor, who took an X-ray and found that there was nothing in his throat, it was clear.

Later, it got worse and worse, and he was afraid that he was going to die. He said his heart was beating fast and he was constantly afraid that he was going to die. So, during the hospital treatment, it became clear that he was suffering from anxiety, panic attacks, and panic attacks.

“The little one’s case is a very serious one. It’s common for other children to have the same problem. Children don’t know what’s wrong with them, so it’s important for parents not to take it lightly or ignore their child’s problems. Otherwise, the child’s emotional distress will become severe and will manifest itself in various ways. They may become extremely shy, shy, afraid of being touched, and eventually, they may become defiant and act out in opposition to everything.

 

                                       Treatment methods

"If children experience this type of anxiety and panic attacks on a regular basis, they can develop low self-esteem, lose confidence, have poor relationships, and even become depressed and suicidal," says Barbara Ward, a social worker at Kids LINK, a Canadian children's mental health center. "This abnormal anxiety and panic attacks can lead to mood disorders in children. Parents can try the following psychological treatments, along with some medication.

(1) Face your own fears and anxieties.

If you are overly anxious yourself, you may be teaching your child to be anxious and worried about everything. Get rid of your own anxiety.

(2) Explain your child's specific fears openly and honestly.

Patrick Flynn, director of Kids LINK, recommends talking to your child about these fears in a calm, face-to-face manner. Don't laugh off their fears or dismiss them lightly, but rather explain that their fears are not real. This will help them build confidence. Create opportunities for success. Provide support, and work with them to solve problems.

This kind of supportive relationship will help your child build their self-confidence. It will give them the tools and methods to overcome their fears on their own.

(3) Don't let the child become dizzy from too much activity.

If your child is too active or playful, stop and set a time for rest. Set a regular bedtime every day. Set a regular meal and playtime schedule. If your child is serious and has a good temperament, they will quickly understand the value of this system and become accustomed to it.

(4) Maintain a balanced diet and sleep.

Don't treat sleep as a luxury, but train your child to sleep only as much as he needs. If he is tired of getting up, try to entice him with something (e.g., coffee, oatmeal, or the smell of bread) and get him to get up on his own. Exercise should be regular. Let your child understand that anxiety makes him more tired and that exercise is the only way to get him to feel energized.

(5) Encourage them to take risks and solve increasingly complex challenges.

As children learn to solve problems, they will gain more confidence and be more comfortable in the world. They will be more confident in what they say and do. Don't let them avoid the things they are afraid of. Encourage them to face them. Be helpful and supportive.

"Every child needs to be exposed to the outside world to connect with the world," says child psychologist Dr. Paul Singleton.

I've said it before. If you keep your feelings bottled up inside your shell, you'll only become a prisoner of your worries in the future.

Anxiety is a genetic trait. Parents who are anxious and fearful themselves can pass it on to their children. Girls tend to be more prone to anxiety than boys. “Boys tend to act out their feelings through their actions,” says psychotherapist D. Michael Stanbrook.

 

                                 The changed "little patience"

After eight months of gradual improvement of the small intestine with the above five methods of treatment, the little girl has a new person and a new life. She eats well, sleeps well, and never says she wants to die. When something worries her, she writes it down on paper. She sends a children's magazine. Expressing her worries in words makes her feel lighter. When she is not allowed to write, she holds a conversation with her family, parents, and siblings and holds a "feeling game".

She expresses her feelings, good or bad, and expresses her thoughts. Her mother believes that the fear and anxiety have completely left her.

May every child be healthy, peaceful, and happy.