Aung Win Htut - Basic Social Communication Skills

Part (1)

Basic ways to interact with people

1. Don't be quick to blame.

"Do not blame others without first looking at your own faults. As an empty vessel is a vessel that is full of water, try to fill yourself first. Do not blame the snow on your neighbor's roof without cleaning your shoes." Confucius once said.

Most of the people we interact with every day are selfish, bigoted, arrogant, and conceited. It takes our own morals and discipline to understand their desires and forgive their mistakes.

Instead of criticizing people for their mistakes, try to understand their feelings. Find out why they did what they did. Doing so is more beneficial than blaming. It creates feelings of compassion, empathy, and empathy. If you know all the reasons why they did what they did, you can forgive them.

Why do we want to blame others? * Don't blame others. *

2. Praise and encourage without flattery.

The only way to get someone to do something is to make them want to do it. To get someone to do something is to give them what they want. Professor Dr. John Dewey said, “The most powerful emotion in human beings is self-esteem.”

Since the dawn of humanity, the things that almost everyone has wanted are: 1.

(1) Health and longevity,

2. Instead

3. Sleep

4. Money and things that money can buy

5. The afterlife

6. Relaxation of the mind

7. The well-being of children

8. Self-esteem, etc. All of the above factors are attainable except for health and longevity.

Self-esteem is one of the things that differentiates human nature from that of animals. If you think that what you do to relieve your self-esteem is a good thing, then you can judge your character and character by examining that self-esteem.

The ability to motivate your subordinates and employees is the greatest quality. The way to promote a person to show his best potential is through praise and encouragement. Scolding from superiors and employers is like cutting off a person's path to advancement.

Many people around the world, no matter how high their position, would rather work under people who support, encourage, and praise them than work under people who criticize them.

Some people think that such praise is flattery. “These flattering words are old-fashioned. You can’t test a simple person.” That’s right. You can’t test a clever person with flattering words. If the flattery is true, it’s more likely to be rejected than not. Flatterers are not people who speak from the heart. They are just selfish. Some people are so eager to be flattered that they will eat anything flattered, just as a person who is starving for flattery will eat grass and worms.

What is the difference between praise and flattery? Praise is sincere. Flattery is dishonest. Praise comes from the heart. Flattery comes from the mouth. Praise is intended to benefit the recipient, while flattery is intended to benefit the flatterer.

* Don't be afraid of the enemies who surround you, but be afraid of the friends who surround you.

Obregon​

“Do not teach me to receive flattery, or to give it,” wrote King George V.

If our job was to flatter, everyone would do it and we would be experts in the art of communication. When we are thinking about a problem, we spend 95 percent of our time thinking about ourselves. If we stop thinking about ourselves and start thinking about the good things about others, we will be able to recognize flattery before we even speak, and we will not end up using unhelpful, false flattery.

“Remember that everyone you meet is in some way better than you. That is how you learn about them.” If this is true, then stop thinking only about what we have achieved and what we want. Try to find the good in others and forget about flattering words. Give honest, sincere, and heartfelt praise. Give support when you need it, and praise when you need it. * Praise without flattery. *

3. Stimulate the desires in the other person's mind.

It's funny when we say what we want. You are always interested in what you want. But no one else is interested in what you are interested in. Everyone else is interested in what you want, just like you.

So, to win someone over to your side, tell them what they want and show them how to get it. For example, don't force your child to stop smoking. Show them that smoking will make them less likely to win at a sport they love.

Work comes from our innermost thoughts. Whether at work, in school, or in politics, the way to win someone over to your side is to “arouse the desire in the other person’s heart.” The next day, if you want to ask someone to do something, before you ask them, ask yourself, “How can I get them to want to do it?”

The ability to assess the opinions of others and then make decisions about actions based on both their own and their own perspectives is the best skill to follow when dealing with people. *

Now, thousands of vendors are walking the streets, selling things for a pittance. Why do they do that? Because they only think about what they want. They don’t know what we want to buy. We are always busy with our own problems. If a vendor is to help us (or their products) they need to show us how they can solve our problems. A customer wants to buy something because they want to, rather than because the vendor is trying to persuade them to buy. But most vendors have been selling products all their lives, without looking at the buyer.

Some people don't think about helping others. They only think about helping themselves. Even educated people make the same mistake. They always think about their own benefit and how to take advantage of others.

The world is full of such greedy, selfish, and self-serving people. There are countless opportunities for a person who sincerely wants to benefit others.

“He who can put himself in the other person's shoes and understand their attitude need not worry about his future.

Owen D Yang

Many people study literature in high schools and universities, but they do not explore what their own mental states are. The broad mind is the mind that dominates other minds in people.”

William Winter

If we have a good idea, instead of letting the other person know that it is our idea, we should make it seem as if it came from him. Then the other person will not only think it is his idea and like it very much, but will also do twice as much as the one who gave the advice.

Therefore, remember the saying, “First arouse a strong desire in the other person’s mind. If he can do this, the whole world will follow him. If he cannot do this, he will be left alone.” * Awaken a strong desire in the other person’s mind*