Maung Lwin Pyin - Lessons from Children

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Rules are not necessary yet.

I will add to the previously published book, “The Pre-Rules of Modern Fatherhood,” which the professor mentioned in advance.

Things to keep in mind when setting rules in advance: Declaring war with your children over trivial matters is like fighting a war. If you make a big deal out of things that don't really matter, how will your children understand when things really matter?

Therefore, if you fight when the problem is truly important, according to its depth, you will be able to understand and respond to it.

We, the modern fathers who will set the rules in advance, are reminded that we need to avoid making a big deal out of trivial, insignificant matters and not set rules in advance about unimportant things.

Small matters always arise in the family. It is said that our fathers do not know this small matter, even our children. Our fathers are wise and prudent. If we are brought up with rules and regulations, we want to do everything according to the rules and regulations.

They have a consistent view that the other issue has been regulated, but this issue is being left out. They want to throw everything into the regulatory framework.

In fact, don't try to make a big deal out of making rules about minor issues with your children, it won't work. It's useless to argue with your children about whether or not to follow rules over minor issues. That's why the professor warns that you may have differences of opinion with your children on other matters of discipline and procedure.

Conflicts and problems between parents and children always exist. Fathers need to know what the conflict is, what the problem is, whether it is small or big, and the depth of the conflict.

If a major conflict arises that really needs to be fought, then a fight between parents and children will have to be called. Children must also know that this action is not because the parent (father) wants to challenge or fight with their children.

A father must fight for his children to follow the rules he has set, with clear policies and consistent discipline. This fight is a great way to make children aware of how important these rules are, so that they can understand and respond.

The professor cautioned that if a father wants his discipline to be rock-solid, it's important to stand up for his side of the argument as soon as the fight begins.

If you don't keep your word, your children will treat you badly in the future. That's why if you want to strengthen the rules and fight, you must keep your word. Be careful not to change it one way now, one way next month, or one way next year.