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Chapter (1)

First steps

To get your way, you need to get other people to agree. This doesn't mean coercion or coercion. We want people to follow our ideas with enthusiasm. It's not easy. If there were a magic formula that could guarantee agreement like a magic wand, this book would be even shorter. For some ideas, agreement is easy. For others, it can be difficult, and sometimes it's impossible.

If I were to drag you into a hot water bath, I wouldn't have any reason to give you one. But if you've read this far, something has convinced you to buy this book.

Persuasion is not easy. But it can be successful. There are rules and approaches that will make your words believable. If you can use these effectively, you can succeed.

These techniques are not complicated. They are usually already in your subconscious mind, and the only time it becomes complicated is when you prepare a method for how to use them appropriately during a conversation. The final approach must be acceptable to the other person and present an interesting point that can inspire agreement.

This is where the little things start to matter. Small changes in the way you explain the benefits and reasons can often lead to a solution that has already been agreed upon, or the opposite.

 

Existing problems

Realizing that social interaction is not easy is the first step to making your relationships successful. To attract and persuade, you need to get people’s attention before you have any expectations. As the introduction to the book shows, there are many failed relationships. From home to work, we hear the words “Why didn’t you say that?” and “But you never said that.” We’ve all been angry at someone at some point. When we try to figure out where it’s going wrong, we find that it’s because of our own communication style.

Why is this happening? There are many reasons for this. There are also ways to overcome these inherent problems. So let's put aside for a moment what makes a sentence attractive and think about its clarity.

The problem is that people don't listen, don't understand, don't agree or follow, and don't give complete and adequate feedback. Think about these points as well.

Focus

People have a hard time listening (or paying attention when reading) for long periods of time. They are impatient when someone is talking for a long time. Even a book like this one, which is divided into many sections and is arranged so that you can pause and take a break, can seem difficult to read. Also, people are picky. They only pay attention to the parts that they think are important to them. And they often make mistakes and misinterpretations about what the main parts of a sentence are.

Lesson: You need to work hard to make sure your message is actually getting across.

Understanding

There are natural human reactions that weaken understanding. People tend to make assumptions based on their past experiences. If you don't take this into account, you won't have anything to reference that will connect you to the topic you want to talk about.

It can be a problem to use terms that not everyone understands. It can be easy for people who know, but confusing for others. Also, if people think that something is stupid, they will hesitate to say that they don't understand.

People make assumptions before someone has even finished speaking. People often say to themselves, “I know what’s going to happen.” At that point, their minds stop focusing on listening and start thinking about how to respond.

If you have said the words but have not shown any action, it is easier to misunderstand. Showing things can be useful. Similarly, a message that can illustrate the whole point is important. Lesson: Expect to gain understanding.

Agreeing,

This is a bit of a persuasion issue. People are suspicious of those trying to win them over. If agreeing to something makes them feel like they're on the wrong side of the fence, it can push people away from the agreement. Lesson: Even strong arguments that logically make sense can be met with resistance.

Implementation

Implementation is when someone changes a habit. This can be a lifelong habit. Behavior//

It makes people think about the difficulties they will face. It raises questions like, “What if I do this and it doesn’t work out?” Some people are hesitant to make a decision, preferring to stand on the edge of a cliff if possible. Lesson: Accept the reason and take action even when there is no reason not to.

Getting feedback

People in relationships are not always open. They may hide their feelings intentionally or for other reasons (e.g., insecurity).

There may be hidden reasons. Or it may be difficult to interpret their response. Lesson: You need to be able to interpret the response. It is important to remember that appearances can be deceiving.

All of this makes it clear that there are always difficulties in human relationships. The first task is to note the problems that arise. While you expect to encounter difficulties in this way, the first step is to overcome them. Don't worry.

There are other things that can help you succeed in your social interactions. The trick is to know what these things are and how to use them appropriately.

Aids to understanding

The four factors listed below (based on what psychologists call the “Laws of Learning”) all contribute to this process. These four factors are:

- Answering individual questions

- Making the case for benefits

- Relating to experience, and repeating it.

Answering individual questions. What is the first reaction of people to a message? They ask what effect this word has on them. How will it affect them? If there is an effect, they want to know whether it is good or bad. This is certainly understandable. We all do it. This is something that